I always love returning to the stories and sayings from the lives of the Desert Fathers. It seems every time I do I get some fresh perspectives and fresh insights on my own journey with the Lord.
Today I'd planned on sharing something completely different than what I'm going to share right now. I had grand plans of writing a killer post about spiritual reading according to the Desert Fathers: it's methods, purpose, and what they recommend.
I'm going to have to save that for another time because it seems the Lord had something else in mind for today.
The best laid plans...
I don't know about you, but sometimes I feel like I'd have a much easier time growing in holiness if I'd joined a monastery instead of deciding to get married. Or perhaps it'd be more accurate to say that, while I can grow in holiness as a married man, I feel like I could've only grown in perfection had I become a monk - sacrificing all possessions and embracing a life of severe ascetic discipline.
I know I'm not alone in feeling this way. I've met plenty of other folks who have expressed, either explicitly or implicitly, similar sentiments. Perhaps you've felt this way yourself.
After all, as a married man with kids, I can't fast to any great extent like a friend of mine who's now a Benedictine monk and only eats once a day, or a Maronite monk I once met who only eats once a day and then only vegetables. I can't keep all-night vigils. The nature of my vocation demands that I have possessions and earn money to support my family. And the chastity to which monks and nuns are called is very different from the chastity to which I am called (it'd actually be a violation of my vocation to attempt to live the type of chastity that monks and nuns are called to live).
So what does this mean? Are we lay people and secular clergy to resign ourselves to a sort of lesser perfection when compared to monks and nuns?
Absolutely not!
We simply need to recognize that our pathway to Christian perfection is different from that of monks and nuns.
How so?
Perhaps this story from The Paradise of the Holy Fathers will help:
The Brothers Paesius and Isaiah
There were once two brothers, Paeisus and Isaiah, whose father was a wealthy merchant. When their father died, the brothers spent several days thinking about what they should to do with their inherited wealth.
They both quickly concluded that they didn't want to continue as merchants like their father. They foresaw the cares, concerns, and troubles that such a life would place on them. So they decided to "acquire the life and conversation of the Christians" so that they might both keep their inherited wealth and also work out their eternal salvation.
Pause...
Notice that they didn't mention immediately that they were going to turn to the monastic life. They simply said that they were going to "acquire the life... of the Christians."
Christian life is supposed to be different. It's supposed to set us apart from the rest of the world. People are supposed to see and know that we are followers of Christ simply by how differently we live our lives. I remember reading in the Catechetical Homilies of St. Cyril of Jerusalem a warning to the catechumens that the life they were embracing as new Christians meant a separation from the life they'd lived in the world up to that point.
Christian life demands conversion, which isn't a feeling of guilt for past sins, but specific action. It means we were once living one way, and now we're living another.
If we're not living our lives radically differently as disciples of Christ, whether we're lay folks or secular clergy, then we're not really living the Christian life to the fullest.
Okay. Let's continue the story...
One of the brothers decided to sell off all his possessions and give the money to churches, monasteries, and the poor. He learned a handicraft that he could use to support himself. Then he spent the rest of his life in prayer, fasting, and other ascetic disciplines.
The other brother gathered small following of like-minded men, built a monastery for them, then used his inheritance to provide for the brethren, care for the poor, and help the sick. The Paradise says:
All strangers and poor folk, and all the aged men and sick folk who thronged to him he used to receive and relieve their wants.
So one brother lead a life of severe ascetic discipline. The other brother led a life of hospitality, practicing what the Catholic Church has come to call the "Corporal Works of Mercy."
When the two brothers died, an argument broke out among a bunch of local monks and hermits about which of the two brothers led a life of greater perfection. They went to Abba Pambo (another famous Desert Father) and asked him his opinion.
Abba Pambo's response, to me, is remarkable:
They are both perfect. One man made manifest the work of Abraham by his hospitality, and the other the self-denial of Elijah... Again I say to you that both are equal in merit.
These should be comforting words for those of us who are unable to perform great ascetic labors.
Where does this leave us?
I've become more and more convinced that, as lay people, it's not our calling to attempt great ascetic labors.
Oh of course, we are all called to practice a certain level of asceticism. That's why the Church breaks up the liturgical year with seasons like Lent and Advent - seasons that are traditionally times of intense focus on ascetical practices. It's also why we're encouraged to practice some sort of ascetic discipline on Fridays (and traditionally on Wednesdays as well).
But the great feats of asceticism are not our calling.
I think our calling is to be perfected through the practice of Christian hospitality after the example of Abraham. We are called to feed the hungry, give drink to the thirsty, clothe the naked, care for the sick, visit the imprisoned... as Christ tells us in Matthew's Gospel.
And God knows, those of us who have young kids have plenty of opportunities to practice these works.
So the next time I start to feel down about not being able to fast with great intensity, or pray all night, or get to daily Liturgy, I'm going to change my perspective.
Maybe instead I'll go change another diaper without complaining or without my wife asking me to. Or I can put clothes on my two-year old who has stripped himself naked (again). Or I can take a meal to a family I know could use one.
The opportunities to practice radical Christian hospitality through the Works of Mercy are endless. How will you grow in perfection by practicing Christian hospitality this week?